I've been musing over this NYT's Modern Love essay for the past couple days.
The article, entitled "A Valley of Misery between peaks of Joy" discusses the happiness arc of people around the world.
To paraphrase the article:
"...researchers had compiled data on two million people from around the world and determined that the average earthling’s happiness chart was in the shape of a U, with the trough representing the decades-long downer of middle age and the narrow tips being twin emotional highs of youth and old age.......when it comes to tales from my fellow mid-lifers, I most often find myself reading about regret and claustrophobia, fantasies surreptitiously indulged, old flames cyberstalked...."
Come on now, really? My Mother always told me that life begins at 40, but I believe it doesn't get going these days till 50. Personally, my 20's were a continuous scramble to come up with rent money while trying to get through college, internships, and an insatiable appetite for going to clubs. (My excuse is the scientific fact that human brains aren't fully developed until late 20's). That was no happiness peak for me...
So who are these miserable mid-lifers? Oh, naturally, the ones trapped in bad, or at least boring, marriages the article goes on. Which leads me to a point I'd like to make, tomorrow being Valentine's Day and all. When the temptation to stay in a bad relationship gnaws at you, with the rationale that being alone on Valentine's Day is somehow worse than being with someone that's really not right for you, shake yourself out of it. Think of the day as a celebration of avoiding regret and claustrophobia....
A lovely box of chocolates from the world famous Knipschildt Chocolatier and a copy of the visually indulgent Marie Antoinette is a great way to enjoy V-day, with or without a significant other.
BTW, this Fritz Knipschildt Chocolatier fellow makes his chocolates much as they do in
the film Chocolat, (another great V-day film) with spices, ginger, chile peppers, and if you want to spend the big bucks, real truffles (those are a $250 a bite treat that topped Forbes most expensive chocolate list recently).
His little works of art can be found at Dean & Deluca, Whole Foods, Balducci's and online.
Knipschildt also operates Chocopologie, a chocolate cafe (!!!!) and retail store in Norwalk, Connecticut. Are you serious??? Sounds like my new second home and a place that will be very busy tomorrow.
BTW - the New York Times Modern Love is hosting a college essay contest that looks exciting. All you 20 something kids working your way through your first happiness peak should get your 2000 words in before your decades long mid-life crisis sets in.